Totally agree with this. It's usually the second or third thing that I say in an interview after "hello", so I can get them to arrange where everyone sits in a favourable way. If they're dicks about it then you're not going to want to work with them. It is scary, though - nobody wants to feel like somebody hates them because of a disability that can't be helped, so I get why it's a preoccupation, and most of us will have had the same worry.

Regarding standups, I agree that they're a PITA. Talk to your scrum master about it if you have one - it's their job to facilitate communication. My past scrum masters have used the Wooden Spoon method (you only get to talk if you're holding the spoon) or they've stood beside me and taken brief notes for me throughout. We also experimented with doing our standups over Slack, which was FANTASTIC.