This story illustrates perfectly one of the big reasons why Bitcoin and company aren't and will probably never be used by the general population for anything really.
If even someone that is technical savvy (I don't know much about the OP but someone that uses RAR, knows how to make crypto wallets and knows how to check the processes running in his computer is much ahead of the average person in terms of IT knowledge) can't be safe with their Crypto coins, you really can't expect that the average person ever trusts Bitcoin and company for anything.
I'm sorry for your loss, but there is nothing you can do really. Try and contact Poloniex for the Ether, but unless you have some prof those coins actually belong to you, it will be next to impossible to have them do anything.