Yeah, we've decided to live with the internal ELB scaling risks for the moment as well. We had the exact same situation where a deployment without gradual connection draining (even if we kept an instance in service in every AZ) would cause the ELBs to scale and drop all of our connections every time once we were at a certain scale. Definitely caused us a fair amount of confusion as it would happen minutes after the deploy when everything seemed to be calmed down again.