Rational thought is not violent, no matter how much it pains you to hear what it concludes. Disagreeing with someone is not violence, even if they can't bear to suffer it.
I would feel so ashamed, for soiling myself with self-pity in public and to perceive the distance others take from me as a success of my output.
Emotional harm is violence. Like all violence it exists on a spectrum.
There's unintended harm, accidental insults and the like. These are easily brushed over for healthy people but for others can become one straw too much.
Sometimes it's intentional and "for their good". Honestly, honesty can be this sometimes. An honest answer may hurt someone but may be exactly what they need. Other times it's just taking it too far and being careless/heartless.
And then there's the truly heinous deliberate form. Ask abused women and children. Did theirs users always hit them? Burn them? Starve them? No. Sometimes, oftentimes, they verbally and emotionally abused them. Keeping them from those who care about them. Creating a bubble around them to keep them despairing. Telling them they're worthless over and over until they believe it.
I don't see where there's any self-pity in my post to be ashamed of. I'm just stating the fact that emotional harm is violence.
