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0 pointsgist9y ago0 comments

Agree. "Sad" is the PC thing to say when something like that happens. In most people's lives it's a big "who cares". [1]

The fact that you were downvoted (at least when I saw your comment) indicates people don't agree with what you are saying and is an example of trying to enforce a particular type of thinking on someone else as far as what they should think or feel.

[1] Of course I wouldn't say "who cares" directly to someone involved in the project in some way then you extend your condolences.

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mikeash9y ago

You wouldn't say it directly to someone involved in the project, but you'll say it in a public forum where there's a decent chance some of those people will see it?

anigbrowl9y ago

Of course I would say it to someone directly involved in the project. I've had projects I worked on go south through unavoidable externalities, of course I felt disappointed but there' no irreversible loss as when someone dies or is permanently disabled. Save your emotions for things that actually matter, an economic/operational setback doesn't qualify.

jacalata9y ago

Seems reasonable to me.

gistOP9y ago

Exactly. That is the problem with the entire PC thing. You have to walk around on eggshells being worried that you will offend someone and never say what you think. I mean seriously. Be worried that someone who worked on a rocket project for SpaceX might be offended by what I say? I am supposed to not say anything because of that?

mikeash9y ago

There's nothing wrong with softening your language a bit just in case someone who happens to be involved sees what you write. If not being a jerk means you can't speak what's on your mind, then that says more about your mind than it does the world.

rodgerd9y ago

No, you're supposed to understand the concept of "manners", like a functional adult, instead carrying on like an overgrown toddler.

d0ugie9y ago

Why the need to comment on perceived downvoting injustice? Is it that big a deal? Is there a downvoted support group somewhere? :P

Anyway, here's the scanner feed of Kennedy Space Center Communicationshttp://www.broadcastify.com/listen/feed/705

ars9y ago

He was downvoted for only looking at first-order effects: People harmed during the fire.

And ignoring second-order effects: People harmed because of the results of the fire.

The second group of people is not less important than the first.

gistOP9y ago

Why is it necessary to feel sad and to even consider all of that? That is my point. What bothers you bothers you and what doesn't is fine, less to think about. You can't go around being bothered by everything 'bad' that happens in the world to someone else. I don't think that is healthy in any way. By "bothered" I don't mean indicating in words that something is sad. I mean actual concern as if it impacts you or someone you know personally.

Sorry but I can't relate to this type of tragedy at all. I can relate to someone getting hacked and losing their business or customer information though. That pain I can imagine. And to hear someone say to me "that's sad" about the latter when knowing they don't have any idea what it is really like to me is just lip service and almost patronizing.

ars9y ago

If you don't feel sad about something, then don't.

But you don't have to go around saying "LaLaLa I don't feel sad." Just don't say anything.

throwaway-hn1239y ago

Hey, why are you letting this bother you so much? Don't let what bothers other people bother you, I don't think it's healthy to want so much control over other people's emotions, and surely you'd have less to think about it you stopped letting it bother you so much?

JaRail9y ago

> I can't relate to this type of tragedy at all

This was a major part of a charitable initiative to bring free internet access to Africa.. That's a lot of lost opportunity for business, education, health care..

From a technical perspective, the laser-based communications network being developed by FB for Africa is super cool. I'm sad to see this delayed. Even though it doesn't affect me directly, it hits my inner nerd right in the feels.

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mikeash9y ago

You wouldn't say it directly to someone involved in the project, but you'll say it in a public forum where there's a decent chance some of those people will see it?

anigbrowl9y ago

jacalata9y ago

Seems reasonable to me.

gistOP9y ago

mikeash9y ago

rodgerd9y ago

No, you're supposed to understand the concept of "manners", like a functional adult, instead carrying on like an overgrown toddler.

d0ugie9y ago

Why the need to comment on perceived downvoting injustice? Is it that big a deal? Is there a downvoted support group somewhere? :P

Anyway, here's the scanner feed of Kennedy Space Center Communicationshttp://www.broadcastify.com/listen/feed/705

ars9y ago

He was downvoted for only looking at first-order effects: People harmed during the fire.

And ignoring second-order effects: People harmed because of the results of the fire.

The second group of people is not less important than the first.

gistOP9y ago

ars9y ago

If you don't feel sad about something, then don't.

But you don't have to go around saying "LaLaLa I don't feel sad." Just don't say anything.

throwaway-hn1239y ago

JaRail9y ago

> I can't relate to this type of tragedy at all

This was a major part of a charitable initiative to bring free internet access to Africa.. That's a lot of lost opportunity for business, education, health care..

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