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0 pointsdjrogers9y ago0 comments

> I get to see their children grow up, new jobs, comfort them when they lose a parent..

Do you though? I mean do you really get to see all those things? Having been through the loss of a parent and the arrival a new baby in the past couple of years I can tell you from this end of things there is no value in any online "presence" of friends and family.

The people who come to meet our new baby, who brought food, and who attended the funeral are the ones that actually impacted our lives and improved us and themselves. A DM or post in Instagram meant nothing - it feels more like the person is signaling human emotions than engaging in them.

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aantix9y ago

So after the death of a parent, an old, close childhood friend that lives far away sends you a message saying "your mom was a second mother to me" and it means nothing...?

It means something to me. So I continue to use the service.

djrogersOP9y ago

Those people sent letters and sympathy cards - actual handwritten ones! And they called too - actually spoke on the telephone. I know, it's a little wacky, but it works.

aantix9y ago

It's the quality of the thought, not the medium for which it's conveyed.

zeroer9y ago

Maybe he means that the person who said "your mom was a second mother" also came to the funeral?

eikenberry9y ago

Apples and Oranges. Do you live 1000s of miles away from friends and family so that your baseline is never seeing the people rather than seeing them in person. If you are starting from the former and building up the ways to stay in touch a platform like Facebook can be a nice tool. Modern communications tools make living away from Family much better than anytime in history with email, unmetered long distance phone, video conferencing, chat, sites like facebook, etc.

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0 pointsdjrogers9y ago0 comments

> I get to see their children grow up, new jobs, comfort them when they lose a parent..

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aantix9y ago

So after the death of a parent, an old, close childhood friend that lives far away sends you a message saying "your mom was a second mother to me" and it means nothing...?

It means something to me. So I continue to use the service.

djrogersOP9y ago

Those people sent letters and sympathy cards - actual handwritten ones! And they called too - actually spoke on the telephone. I know, it's a little wacky, but it works.

aantix9y ago

It's the quality of the thought, not the medium for which it's conveyed.

zeroer9y ago

Maybe he means that the person who said "your mom was a second mother" also came to the funeral?

eikenberry9y ago

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