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0 pointswatty8y ago0 comments

Yes, it is still unethical.

> Where it gets murky is if you don't have a job, you're stuck -- it's very difficult to leave your marriage without at least attempting to find someone else before a divorce.

Are you saying that you should continue to live off of the spouse's salary while shopping on the side?

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sillysaurus38y ago

It's easy to turn this question around: Are you saying that you should live your life beholden to someone else just because they're supporting you financially? Isn't that servitude?

swagasaurus-rex8y ago

You're beholden because you're married, not because you're a slave. You have a choice of divorce, nobody is stopping you from leaving, being financially dependent that doesn't justify cheating on your spouse.

wattyOP8y ago

Beholden to someone? Servitude?

I'm simply saying that it's unethical to live off of someone else's salary, in marriage, while trying to find a replacement (it's called an affair).

sillysaurus38y ago

Ten years is a long time, and people change significantly. Think drug abuse. If your SO is strung out all the time, and you have no ability to support yourself, what would you do?

Unfortunately this isn't a corner case. It's a sad but common story.

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0 pointswatty8y ago0 comments

Yes, it is still unethical.

> Where it gets murky is if you don't have a job, you're stuck -- it's very difficult to leave your marriage without at least attempting to find someone else before a divorce.

Are you saying that you should continue to live off of the spouse's salary while shopping on the side?

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sillysaurus38y ago

It's easy to turn this question around: Are you saying that you should live your life beholden to someone else just because they're supporting you financially? Isn't that servitude?

swagasaurus-rex8y ago

wattyOP8y ago

Beholden to someone? Servitude?

I'm simply saying that it's unethical to live off of someone else's salary, in marriage, while trying to find a replacement (it's called an affair).

sillysaurus38y ago

Ten years is a long time, and people change significantly. Think drug abuse. If your SO is strung out all the time, and you have no ability to support yourself, what would you do?

Unfortunately this isn't a corner case. It's a sad but common story.

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