I did not say that there are no women who use sex to control men. I said that it is not possible to control someone merely by offering them sex. It requires the cooperation of the person who is being offered sex. This is in stark contrast to the kind of power older men often have over younger women.

>And the idea that we can just decide to switch lust on and off is ridiculous.

Who said anything about switching lust off? All you have to do is decline the offer, which is eminently possible.