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0 pointssaint_fiasco8y ago0 comments

Has that worked in the past?

I've never made a fuckup of nearly the same magnitude, but the times I made a mistake in public apologizing always made things worse.

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jgh8y ago

Has what worked in the past? Admitting you were wrong and apologizing? Sure it's a good way of resolving conflicts if you were actually wrong. People grow and change throughout life, I don't think that being a knucklehead in the past necessarily means you're a knucklehead now.

saint_fiascoOP8y ago

Admitting you were wrong and apologizing in public, specifically.

An individual can be reasoned with, placated. You can make reparations, promises that the other person will believe because of a precedent of mutual trust and forgiveness.

However, you can't do that with an angry mob.

rainbowmverse8y ago

The angry mob is irrelevant. There are more individuals watching quietly than people making their positions public. The mob will chill when their friends ask them to post-apology. I have been on all sides of this phenomenon: the chiller, the chillee, the apology. It works.

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wmil8y ago

It doesn't work in the case of moral panics like this.

Apologizing only convinces the people who are called for his head that they were correct. Usually it will lead to further sanctions.

jasonlotito8y ago

Yes. 100% it has worked. I've fucked up in the past, apologized, and made things much, much better.

Edit: I feel some might be reading this wrong. I'm did not say it works 100% of the time. I said that I'm 100% certain it has worked because it's worked for me.

hinkley8y ago

You’ve apologized to an angry mob. When?

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