As for the analogy -- there are metrics you can use today to bat away grandma before she starts hoarding too much. We have metrics for how much grandma is putting in the house (memory.stat), at what rate we kick our own stuff out of the house just to appease grandma, but then we realise we removed stuff we actually need (memory.stat -> workingset_refault), and similar. Using this and Johannes' recent work on memdelay (see https://patchwork.kernel.org/patch/10027103/ for some recent discussion), it's possible to see memory pressure before it actually impacts the system and drives things into swap.