I guess with Vue I just don't feel in control any more, and that's a big no for me.I understand your feeling, even though I don’t work in React.
I worked for a company that brought in a new guy who was all hung-ho on Vue as the new hotness. He managed to convince the project manager that we had to convert the entire site to Vue.
I was never able to wrap my brain around the fact that so much of it was opaque. You just had to trust that A would lead to B would lead to C. And when it didn’t, even the Vue evangelist couldn’t untangle it.
As I’ve explored more and more languages and frameworks over the years, some I immediately grok, and others just never make sense. I think some programmers, brains are just wired differently than others. It’s too bad that there’s this undercurrent of tribalism and brand loyalty in the industry.