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0 pointscameronbrown6y ago0 comments

Dating sucks, but I'm still more uncomfortable with the idea of somebody's initial meeting being reduced to matching algorithms.

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strikelaserclaw6y ago

In my opinion, it might actually prove to be better than letting people decide based on super superficial attributes on dating profiles. Online dating completely sucks, guys have no choice, girls have too many bad choices.

ssully6y ago

There are other dating apps outside of Tinder and Bumble. I am married, so I don't use them personally, but my friends use/used Tinder/Bumble for more casual dating/hook ups. When they were looking for something a little more serious they would use something like OK Cupid to provide matches based on similar interests.

Either way, I don't see how online dating will ever not suck. I have no clue how it is in gay communities, but I do not see straight people's problems ever being different: i.e. Women having to deal with the ocean of terrible men, and Men having the problem of trying to stand out in that ocean (and in some of my male friends cases, not being so picky).

hombre_fatal6y ago

Online dating just makes obvious the reality of actual dating.

For example, HNers talk about online dating as though they think they aren't being sized up in real life based on their looks and how they dress. And that it wasn't until Tinder that people started doing this.

phil2486y ago

I think you're overstating the use of "algorithms" in these apps. They just throw people at you that you haven't set up any filters to avoid seeing, and vice versa. The algorithm appears to be "people you didn't explicitly rule out based on a small handful of criteria you provided, and they didn't rule you out too".

AnIdiotOnTheNet6y ago

Just look at how poorly all the various recommendation systems out there work and be comforted by the fact that any such algorithm will be easily approximated with a random number generator.

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