Because I'm selfish, diving was one of my first thoughts. "I use this all the time!" Context only counts for a time. My wife reminded men of one of her favorite childhood books that has "queer" in the title. It wasn't a slur, it was a synonym for "odd." Then came the 90s and later and "queer" was mostly used as a slur. Then to LGBTQ community took it as their own. It's nearly off limits for the rst of us because saying "how queer" has to be followed by "I mean odd, not a mean way to reference homosexuals." (Is that even the right way to reference people now? I can't track all the variants of binary/sis/etc.)