> you never were allowed to open and inspect voting ballots or boxes
You are allowed to see that the boxes are empty in the morning, and you are allowed to see each ballot as it is retrieved from the box when it is being counted. Between those two points the box never leaves public eye. Why would you need to open it yourself?
> or attending the central counting place in your state/at the federal level to make sure they are counting everything correctly as well
Why not? All of those are open to the public in my country.
I think you are seriously underestimating the amount of openness that is possible - and practiced - with paper ballots.