Do I really believe that people should take care about the way they tell personal anecdotes about professional interactions with women, if they do not want to be seen as perpetuating sexist tropes? Yes, I do.

If the OP was trying to share a moment when they enjoyed learning from a great mind, the way they told that story was not a good way to express that. I wanted to give them the feedback that they might want to reframe the story because, telling it the way they did they run the risk of coming across as having behaved poorly. I feel I approached that with reasonable tact and in a spirit of good faith.

I appreciate dang’s commentary back to me about exercising the principle of charity. But I don’t accept that I was nasty. And I don’t appreciate your presumption of bad faith on my part.