The user is the ultimate decision maker - the user gets to decide whether they want MacOS or not.
The only people talking about constraining this freedom are the ones asking for the government to regulate software distribution.
What you are asking for is for Apple to make a design change to their software to support your use case.
That is a very reasonable thing to want, and to reject Apple for not providing, but it has nothing to do with some ideology of what it means to ‘own’ something.
My car has software problems I don’t like - the digital speedometer only reads kph, whereas I live in a place where mph is standard. There is no facility for changing the software.
Obviously I still own the car.