>>if you’re concerned about being perceived as selfish

I am not, All persons act in their own personal or familial self interest, to deny that is to deny reality.

>>and if so how you reconcile the tension?

I dont plan to

>> Lockdowns reduce deaths.

There is very little actual evidence of this, even further there is little evidence that draconian government measures have done more than voluntary action of informed persons.

It is far too large of topic to discuss here but no one can honestly say "draconian government lock-downs were the best way to deal with the pandemic" because that is simply false.

That is more complicated, but I take a traditionally libertarian view, opposing world policing actual defense is acceptable, actual defense being something akin to a slightly more powerful coast guard.

But going item by item on the list of government actions would be rather pointless, politically I fall somewhere between Anarcho-Capitalism and Geo-Libertarianism