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0 pointskerkeslager4y ago0 comments

> I personally think it is a sign of modern hubris to assume that effective family planning didn't exist prior to 1960s and the advent of birth control.

Effective toward what end?

Having kids when and only when you want them? Sure. "Only have sex when you want a kid" has always been an option.

Having kids when and only when you want them, and fulfilling your biological urges? Not so much.

I'm glad for you that your family planning worked for you and fulfilled your needs, but if you're going to extrapolate your experience to literally all humans throughout history, you aren't really in a position to be talking about other people's hubris.

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war10254y ago

> Having kids when and only when you want them? Sure. "Only have sex when you want a kid" has always been an option.

> Having kids when and only when you want them, and fulfilling your biological urges? Not so much.

Unsure if you're being obstinate or ignorant, but we've been married a decade and I assure you we have had sex several orders of magnitude more than the three times we conceived.

Baby = Egg + sperm. Keep those two apart and no baby. Not exactly rocket science.

kerkeslagerOP4y ago

Of course, I assumed that you had sex many times more than you conceived. Keep in mind, I wasn't the other person who commented.

If pulling out, having sex while not ovulating, or whatever you did, is satisfying for you, great! I applaud your satisfaction.

However, as I said not everyone is satisfied by that kind of sex. To say that the limitations imposed by a lack of birth control don't exist, or aren't important, fails to capture the depth, breadth, and variety of human sexuality.

war10254y ago

Perhaps in the future you could avoid leading with things such as:

> that's about as useful as a story of how someone prayed and their mom's cancer went away.

All I did was comment and say, "Hey, we did this and it worked for us" and you replied with the equivalent of "Go fuck yourself, I don't want to hear it"

Of course modern birth control opens many doors, I don't think that was ever in question. It's a highly personal choice and I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

Anyway, cheers. Hope you're having a good day.

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WA4y ago

In your other comment, you wrote in a kinda magic-wishful-thinking way "you can only get pregnant if you really want kids". That is a contradiction to baby = egg + sperm.

If a woman has sex without some kind of fertility awareness, she gets pregnant. If she knows when she ovulates and avoids sex during that time and 5 days prior, she might not get pregnant.

Thing is: female libido is highest when the fertility in a cycle is the highest. So biologically speaking, women have to actively fight their hormones if they want to avoid pregnancy.

war10254y ago

> In your other comment, you wrote in a kinda magic-wishful-thinking way "you can only get pregnant if you really want kids".

I really think you are all just intentionally misunderstanding me.

I am not saying "You can only get pregnant if you want to get pregnant"

I am saying "A couple in a committed relationship can fairly easily and reliably avoid having kids without the use of contraceptives if they don't want them."

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0 pointskerkeslager4y ago0 comments

> I personally think it is a sign of modern hubris to assume that effective family planning didn't exist prior to 1960s and the advent of birth control.

Effective toward what end?

Having kids when and only when you want them? Sure. "Only have sex when you want a kid" has always been an option.

Having kids when and only when you want them, and fulfilling your biological urges? Not so much.

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war10254y ago

> Having kids when and only when you want them? Sure. "Only have sex when you want a kid" has always been an option.

> Having kids when and only when you want them, and fulfilling your biological urges? Not so much.

Unsure if you're being obstinate or ignorant, but we've been married a decade and I assure you we have had sex several orders of magnitude more than the three times we conceived.

Baby = Egg + sperm. Keep those two apart and no baby. Not exactly rocket science.

kerkeslagerOP4y ago

Of course, I assumed that you had sex many times more than you conceived. Keep in mind, I wasn't the other person who commented.

If pulling out, having sex while not ovulating, or whatever you did, is satisfying for you, great! I applaud your satisfaction.

war10254y ago

Perhaps in the future you could avoid leading with things such as:

> that's about as useful as a story of how someone prayed and their mom's cancer went away.

All I did was comment and say, "Hey, we did this and it worked for us" and you replied with the equivalent of "Go fuck yourself, I don't want to hear it"

Of course modern birth control opens many doors, I don't think that was ever in question. It's a highly personal choice and I don't think there is anything wrong with that.

Anyway, cheers. Hope you're having a good day.

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WA4y ago

In your other comment, you wrote in a kinda magic-wishful-thinking way "you can only get pregnant if you really want kids". That is a contradiction to baby = egg + sperm.

If a woman has sex without some kind of fertility awareness, she gets pregnant. If she knows when she ovulates and avoids sex during that time and 5 days prior, she might not get pregnant.

Thing is: female libido is highest when the fertility in a cycle is the highest. So biologically speaking, women have to actively fight their hormones if they want to avoid pregnancy.

war10254y ago

> In your other comment, you wrote in a kinda magic-wishful-thinking way "you can only get pregnant if you really want kids".

I really think you are all just intentionally misunderstanding me.

I am not saying "You can only get pregnant if you want to get pregnant"

I am saying "A couple in a committed relationship can fairly easily and reliably avoid having kids without the use of contraceptives if they don't want them."

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