Viewed another way: if you could make a fission reactor with a power density as low as ARC, it would have so much thermal inertia that meltdowns would be essentially impossible. You should then ask why such fission reactors are not built.
As to why massive fission reactors aren't built: there are plenty of already-available passively-safe/meltdown-proof fission designs (many gen-IV designs qualify), and from what I can tell, the reasons they're not built are as much political as anything -- people don't like them, and the consequent regulatory regime has made any fission projects prohibitively expensive regardless of their size. None of this need be the case with fusion.
As to tritium: I think you're overstating the tritium risk. They're only dealing with grams at a time, and even if it all leaked out, it would rapidly diffuse such that risk to the public would be infinitesimal as compared to normal background radiation (plus its half-life is only something like 12 years). ITER has a safety page: https://www.iter.org/mach/safety that essentially says as much.
Tritium will be handled in such large quantities in a fusion reactor that even small leaks will be problematic. As I like to point out, the tritium made and burned in a 1 GW(e) DT fusion reactor in one year would contaminate 2 months of the entire flow of the Mississippi River above legal limits for drinking. Even small leaks could cause serious harm to property values (sorry, your ground water can't be drunk for the next 50 years.)
Gen-IV reactors aren't built not for political reasons, but because nuclear has become such an economic orphan that there aren't stakeholders to drive the construction of these things. The money isn't there because the ROI isn't there.
