Even with a modest spending budget, if you want to max your 401k - which you will need to do to keep this life style in retirement - you're going to need to make $180k.
Definitely not "hard to live on". But also, you are decidedly far from rich.
$250k - if you are single - you should be able to save a lot and make some investments and have more financial freedom - or more spending, whichever you prefer. Still, you are far from "rich". Even at ~$450k (top 1%), you're going to need several years of savings at that level before you start to feel "rich".
Should people feel sorry for you? No. But are you just riding around on yachts and drinking umbrella drinks all day? No.