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I saw this in The Three-Body Problem:

> Everyone likes to reminisce, but no one wants to listen, and everyone feels annoyed when someone else tells a story.

That quote really resonated with me, as I realized how true it was for my interactions in the last few months.

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munificent4y ago

> for my interactions in the last few months.

I read something on Twitter about the pandemic that really stuck with me:

Everyone needs more than anyone else has to give right now.

If that quote resonates with you all the time, then there may be a deeper problem at play. But right now, yeah, we're all feeling pretty tapped out.

e40OP4y ago

It very well could be just the people in my life.

Btw, it's only that I noticed it the last few months. I think it's been going on far longer and more indicative of my relationships. Sadly.

toyg4y ago

The part about stories is not necessarily true though. If your story really is engaging or entertaining, you're scoring social points, people will be happy they listened and might ask you for more.

The problem is that most people overestimate how interesting their experience is to others.

e40OP4y ago

I've definitely noticed an asymmetry, though. I engage and they don't. Yeah, I wasn't hugely interested in some of their stories, but I understand they are important to them, so I made the effort. Don't see the effort returned as often as I make it, that's all.

And it's not everyone, it's a subset of people.

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0 pointse404y ago0 comments

I saw this in The Three-Body Problem:

> Everyone likes to reminisce, but no one wants to listen, and everyone feels annoyed when someone else tells a story.

That quote really resonated with me, as I realized how true it was for my interactions in the last few months.

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munificent4y ago

> for my interactions in the last few months.

I read something on Twitter about the pandemic that really stuck with me:

Everyone needs more than anyone else has to give right now.

If that quote resonates with you all the time, then there may be a deeper problem at play. But right now, yeah, we're all feeling pretty tapped out.

e40OP4y ago

It very well could be just the people in my life.

Btw, it's only that I noticed it the last few months. I think it's been going on far longer and more indicative of my relationships. Sadly.

toyg4y ago

The part about stories is not necessarily true though. If your story really is engaging or entertaining, you're scoring social points, people will be happy they listened and might ask you for more.

The problem is that most people overestimate how interesting their experience is to others.

e40OP4y ago

And it's not everyone, it's a subset of people.

j / k navigate · click thread line to collapse