Things are messy, uncomfortable and "in your face" because that is how we relate to them, not because it's inherently in their nature. That is important, because among other attributes, those three have a strong tendency to wane with familiarity and over time.

To give two examples, sharing opinions and pieces of your life online was generally a confusing concept 15 years ago. Now it is considered a virtue by many and an important part of distinguishing oneself from their peers (or even a career in itself). Another one is new music being uncomfortable (although, of course, people would rather claim it's "bad") and in your face and that sentiment being shared by the majority. Until it "suddenly" isn't. Not because the music changed – it's a recording after all, frozen in time – but because it has changed us.