Eh, shotgun recoil is amazingly variable based on the weight of the firearm and the choice of ammunition.
I’d swear by my Mossberg 590, which has enough heft that decades-younger-akerl could easily manage the recoil.
I feel like you’re also underselling spread. You’re not going to be peppering an entire doorway from 5 feet away, but precision is much less relevant than with a handgun or rifle.
That said, if anybody reads the above comment and decides a rifle is their home defense weapon of choice, I’d strongly advice taking similar care to select the caliber and build. A .22 gives you no recoil but very little kinetic energy to work with. By contrast, anything in a more typical rifle caliber (.223 and up, essentially) and you’re running a pretty serious risk to anything that happens to be behind your target. If you’ve decided a rifle is the form factor you want, there’s any number of modern carbines chambered in typically-pistol calibers like 9mm / 40 S&W / 45, which in a carbine will have neglible recoil and mesh much better with a home defense situation.