We are not discussing the question of whether leaded solder should be banned, but the question of whether it is advisable for hobbyists to use it in a home environment. RoHS prohibitions on leaded solder have nothing to do with concerns about the safety of home soldering.

I'm not sure why you think that the absence of relevant safety data argues in favor of using leaded solder for home soldering. Surely one should err on the side of caution. I use unleaded solder myself without problems. Why then would I want to take on the additional risk of using leaded solder? It's worth noting that there is no known safe dose of lead ("there is no lower threshold to the dose-response relationship below which lead exposure is treated as safe" [1]). If you are spraying little balls of lead around your home environment, it's obvious that there is a non-zero risk of eventually ingesting some of them. People aren't doing scientific studies to prove that because it comes under the heading of the "bleedin' obvious" :)

Of course everyone can make their own decisions here. If you really want to use leaded solder then go ahead. What I don't quite understand is why some people react so strongly to the precautionary advice to use unleaded solder.

[1] https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4961898/