this is very bad, the problem is not tiktok, she finds an escape thanks to tiktok, don't remove that from her
talk to her, talk to her teacher if she doesn't have problems at school with other kids
> Our kids are being milked of their time, attention, imagination, focus and money. The majority of them can't even cross the streets properly any more. They don't even look if the drivers saw them, they all have a phone in hand.
that's an education problem, it is your fault, not theirs or some apps
Honestly, do you think parents are able to effectively counter literal billion-dollar companies that pour resources into making sure their apps are engaging (read: addictive)? How?
We've taken a hard-line stance with our kids and have explained/educated them on every aspect of social media, attention, and addictive programs. And we're still losing the fight. I genuinely think people massively underestimate how addictive many apps are, especially to developing minds that are constantly seeking novelty.
not by trying to put the fault on them or dodging the issue by finding excuses
if you ban tiktok today, tomorrow will appear a new one, embrace them for what they are, social communication mediums, and educate your kids with the problems and how they can avoid them, and to contact you in case they face them
the reason they are finding an escape through them and not thought you is because you are hostile to the way they communicate with their friends, and if you add the pandemic to the bags, it is easy to understand why they are using it more often
trying to push an agenda, and using "teen mental health" as an excuse is disgusting
student loan, much deadlier, and nobody gives a shit
facebook? deadlier from 7 to 77, and nobody gives a shit, but tiktok? all of a sudden, it's the evil ;)
because you can't spread your propaganda? politic or commercial? how sad! teens and young adult too busy spreading positivity on tiktok, we must fight!
It's full of strawman arguments around tiktok, which I am not talking about exclusively. And an ad hominem about my parenting.
There isn't really anything in this to counter what I said, which was that parents are vastly under-resourced and under-prepared compared to the companies putting these apps into the world.
The issue is being taken care of don't worry, no excuses, straight from the root.
> the reason they are finding an escape through them and not thought you is because you are hostile to the way they communicate with their friends
I am not. She has whatsapp, youtube, meets, games and a healthy digital presence with her friends and colleagues. I just weed out crap that she is not prepared for, the addictive one.
I do not find here prepared, at 10 years of age, to deal with crap like likes, followers, reactions, views or other meaningless measurements that put thousands into mental hospitals.
I don't think that's true at all. Facebook and tiktok are bad for you in their own ways and I'd be willing to bet that many of the people who rail against TikTok's detrimental effects railed and continue to rail against Facebook.
Can you explain in a "soft kind manner" to an addict that they should just quit? You can fight it pro-actively or re-actively. I prefer the former as, at least, prevents the addiction from even forming.
Please identify a smoker in your close circle and explain in a "soft manner" to them how that thing causes cancer, lowers life expectancy, increases heart rate and all the jazz that we are sure of - scary stuff. Report back if they quit.
I cannot be in total control and I do NOT want that but, at least, I'm not putting cigarettes on the table myself because that's what this is.
> Can you explain in a "soft kind manner" to an addict that they should just quit? You can fight it pro-actively or re-actively. I prefer the former as, at least, prevents the addiction from even forming.
This book is pretty much that: Allen Carr's Easy Way to Quit Smoking Without Willpower.
This book was recommended by a family member who read it and immediately quit after she finished it and based on hearsay apparently many people have the same experience. Its apparent magical effectiveness is anecdotal but something to consider. Obviously you are not a smoker, but why not grab a copy from public library and analyze its approach.
- make it illegal to offer microtransactions in apps for users -18
there, you fix half of the problems, no longer companies will make their app addictive to teens
then up to the parents to regulate screen time for their kids
