Ask HN: I did not get pay rise – as only person in team. Should I quit?

You should never quit until you have another offer in hand.

> Reason that I did not get pay rise might be that I'm not afraid to criticize some stupid ideas, and I'm very offensive when it comes to handling projects (I lead, and I work hard). So I often have some silly(very short lived) conflicts with some of the engineers.

I'm all about pushing back on "stupid ideas" but you might want to think about coming up with a less abrasive way to do it. That won't win you any friends and could hinder your ability to get other jobs in the future "He was a hard worker but no one wanted to work with him". You can skate by for a while acting this way but it will come back to bite you. Working on your soft skills can be invaluable and let you go much further than you otherwise might.

But all that said, I'd look for a new job unless you want to try asking for a raise. Even if you get the raise, if it feels like pulling teeth, then start looking. Also don't work outside 9-5 hours unless you are compensated, companies will take advantage of that and not care if you burn out.

I personally would take a step back and get rid of any assumption about why I did not get a raise. You have jumped to the conclusion that you did not get a raise because of some personal defects. It could just as well be that 80% of the company was profoundly undercompensated whereas you are already compensated in line with market rates.

I think it's reasonable to expect your manager to provide more details. I would give my manager a heads up that if they do not explain I am going to escalate. In my escalation I would stick to the facts. "The CEO said 80% of the company got raises. I did not get a raise. I have asked my manager for an explanation. My manager refused to explain."

P.S. you should totally work on those personal defects that you've identified in yourself. It sounds like you may also have some responsibility in creating a toxic work environment.

If you admit to being offensive and often having conflicts, it sounds like you already have an idea of why you did not get a raise. I'd tell your boss that refusal to talk about makes you feel like you are not wanted there, so if they do want you on the team, that discussion needs to happen.

And if it doesn't, then yes - it sounds like there are some problems in both directions, so maybe it is time to find something else.

I'm an older engineer and having been in your shoes, here is my advice:

The best way to get a pay raise is to change your job. This is how the industry works.

Many people fail to realize that their relationship with the company is a contractual one and nothing else. Sure, your coworkers are most likely pleasant to be around but that does not change the _nature_ of a corporation. It exists to simply generate profits for itself and has no other goals.

This is why getting emotionally attached to your work is a mistake because sooner or later it will harm you in some way (burnouts, preventing career growth, slowing financial growth,..). Companies know this of course and usually use it to take advantage of people. What do you think all those ping-pong tables, free foods, team building "exercises", lectures about how we are in the trenches together, etc are supposed to achieve? All those are meant to amplify one's emotional investment to a soulless corporation.

Still not convinced? Just look a the CEO of bolt right now with his emotionally charged war speech as the ship is sinking.. Lord knows what he is saying to his team internally to squeeze a few extra cents out of them before the end.

But I digress; Yes, you should quit if you are unhappy. Don't go to your boss, don't "discuss it", all that will do is paint a cross on your back if they find out.

Start interviewing, as soon as you have a position you like, hand in your resignation letter and rotate off. No feelings hurt, nothing unprofessional this simply business.

Remember that you are a professional and your health and happiness of yourself, loved ones and family members is what takes priority over everything else.

Best of luck!

> My boss refuses to talk with me about it.

Well, that's a red flag if I ever saw one. It sounds like you already have some areas you know you should be working on, and that's good. But if your boss refuses to talk to you about your career / pay then something is going on. Or maybe you just have a bad boss. Either way, I'd be looking for that reason alone.

Maybe you need to learn to work as a team.

Hard work alone won't make you grow your career, you need to be tactful and you need to be a team player. Calling an idea stupid is childish and unprofessional.

If your boss announced that almost everyone else but you got a raise, he probably wants you to quit, just not enough to straight up fire you.

Either find somewhere else or consider this a wake up call to change.

I don't know why CEOs make these sort of announcements.

Several months ago my CEO mentioned in a townhall that raises would be larger than normal this year due to recognizing inflation.

At the tail end of my reasonable and normal performance review I got by far the smallest raise I've received in close to a decade.

So, I'm job searching, because the clear signal is my contribution is no longer valued. Had the CEO said nothing, I might be telling myself that the company was in hard times or something, but instead I know I'm an outlier.

"Bosses refuse to talk to me about it", if you have given them reasonable time to consider your request there are a couple of realities to consider: 1. They may not be able to meet your request (ie their hands are truly tied). This could range from they believe you are already at the upper end of salary 'bins' for your position or they do not have the money. There are many reasons, and you will not know which it is, and whatever you think its likely wrong. 2. They aren't in your corner, at least in this issue, and potentially believe that giving you a raise sends the wrong message about near-term performances (this could include "tough" talk about "stupid" ideas or outright confrontation that is causing them headaches). No "thank you" for working weekends is another example of headache generators as it represents crossing the professional/homelife boundary. Bosses don't want headaches.

You should apply to other positions, it sounds like you are frustrated... or worse get some enjoyment from being frustrated. It is in your best interest to not be this way, and it can give you some illusionary ego boosts that are toxic.

From someone who has treated most jobs like a lifestyle, a job is a job and you shouldn't be more invested than this.

Yes. But first:

Secure a new job. And while you do that, work on your soft skills. You admit to being "offensive" and yet you want "emotional" support.

Someone mentioned below "fuck you money". If you are in a good position financially, you can fuck right off that place and never look back. Take a month off or two. It really does free space in your head. I can only speak from my experience, but it is the best thing that I did. I was making good money, but when you are burnt it really does not matter. Also like someone suggested, around August is when the hiring process gets hot. And yes, job hopping is where you will get most of your pay increase. Never get attached to your job. It is always business. Good luck!

Do you have "fuck you" money?

If the answer is yes then I would still wait until September or so if I were you - summer is slow season in recruitment and the job offers are usually uninspiring.

1. I've worked with very few people who are smart enough to criticize ideas as "stupid" and the fact that you're in the position you're in suggests you're not one of them. And that's fine! 99.99% of us aren't and I'm not one of them. But there's lots of reasons that people come up with ideas that are different than yours. Maybe they have a different context and are optimizing for different things. Maybe they're less experienced. Maybe they don't think over-optimizing in that case is worth while. Maybe they are stupid! But if you can't communicate with them about that and either get to a better place, you may not be that valuable. Which brings me to point 2.

2. I've worked with very few people who's individual contributions are great enough that it exceeds their contribution/output if they were a technical lead mentoring other engineers. It does happen, people who build libraries and frameworks and solve intractable problems for the business can be great IC-IC's. But it's not most of us. So if you're constantly having non-productive conflict with other engineers, you may be undermining your own productivity, and your value in the eyes of your management.

I guess there's two factors. If you think you can make more somewhere else, go somewhere else. Or if you think you might be fired, time to start looking.

That all being said. I'd love to dig deeper into the fact that you seem value emotional support from your boss, but seem to admit to denying that to your peers.

Sounds a bit shit.

If you can find a better work environment then quit. I wouldn't work weekends without some form of recognition, which is sounds like you are not getting.

Just quit dude. I worked and was underpaid while working for a douchebag boss on a scummy team for years and it caused a ton of stress. As long as you have a few months of expenses covered you’ll be fine.

I was trying to “wait till I got an offer” like everyone says and interview during work hours. Eventually a meeting got rescheduled to a time I had an interview, so I told the meeting organizer I couldn’t make it and didn’t show. Then my manager & director started hounding me like a pack of howler monkeys. After I was done with my interviews I got back to them and quit on the spot because they were being jackasses. Then I literally got multiple job offers the next day and had another company compete against them, now I’m making 2x what I was making and everybody is super nice and cool.

Looking back, I wish I had just quit earlier, when you’re in a shitty situation you stay in it hoping it gets better, when you should really just give up and recalibrate your life. There’s no glory in working on a team of uninspiring douchebags.

Jerome Powell announced an important factor for you during the last FOMC meeting: "We can't allow a wage price spiral to happen."

This means that the FED will certainly increase the unemployment rate and put pressure on companies. Why? Because they do not want a 70s type of inflation auto-fueled by wage increases which is actually already the case in the US but not in Europe.

During a time of layoffs, HR uses generally a LIFO (Last In First Out) list. => Changing job adds risk.

As several have noted: Work is not an individual sport (Forget the tv shows). You need allies. Working on your social skills will increase your income faster than changing job. And it will decrease your probabilities to be fire if (when?) a recession hits.

Don't work weekends, it isn't buying you anything.

No rush, look for a better job. If you find one you would be happier with, just take it if you also get a raise.

Sounds like you’re a brilliant asshole.

Some developers can sometimes lack the social skills to work cohesively with a team especially if they regard everyone as beneath them when it comes to IQ (stupid).

It’s a good thing you recognize friction points - perhaps it’s something you can work on?

> no "thank you" for working in weekends for example

At least, stop working in weekends. (Unless you can somewhat compensate the hours reducing the time during the other days of the week.)

Don't quit until you have another job offer in hand. But you should start getting job interviews.

Do not quit, but do start interviewing. Once you get a better offer in hand, present it to your boss. If they refuse to match (or outbid) for you, then take the competing offer.

It can take years to find a job that is better, but you should polish your resume and start looking. In some cases you should tell your boss that you find the last raise offensive and you so you are forced to start looking - they may have options. But in others talking about it will put you first on the lay-off list before you find a new job, and this in turn may force you to accept a job you don't like as much just because you need some income. (even in countries with a safety net you probably like a nicer lifestyle than the safety net will allow)

The important part is once this starts happening nothing will change until enough people - not just you - force the issue by leaving for someplace that treats you better.

You have indicated an awareness that are are not always perfect. I have no idea how bad you are, there are some people that the company would be better off if they left, and the company has decided you are such a person. Maybe you need to reform yourself? I cannot answer that other than to point out everyone has room for improvement.

> My boss refuses to talk with me about it.

Get a strong documentation trail going, send an email indicating you need to speak with them about x, you're free anytime they are, send calendar invites etc.

Once you have their explicit refusal or implicit from negligence -- go to skip level (boss of your boss) and be prepared to need to move in the org as retaliation is too likely to risk.

Find another job and then quit for sure and you will get a raise.

It sounds like you already know what the issue is. It will not get better.

On the other hand, you should work on yourself and examine what you can do better (as opposed as blaming you for when things went wrong ie. you snapped at somebody etc).

I would not work on weekends, like, just don't do it, let them hire another dev if they need it.

I'd like to take a step back for a moment here.

I see this pattern in career conversations online. Someone has an issue at work, they ask online if they should quit, and the overwhelming answer is a resounding yes. The problem with this is that this reaction doesn't leave room for introspection. If OP has an underlying issue that's holding them back, they might resolve it by changing companies in the short term, but it will always come back to haunt them if left unaddressed.

Back to your question, I would consider unacceptable to not get at least an inflation meeting raise every year. On the other hand you admit that your behaviour might be at the root of this outcome.

So yes, by all means make your stance clear and start looking for new positions. But before that, do some deep and honest introspection and consider working on yourself. Otherwise we will likely see a similar post in a couple of years complaining about how unfair your new workplace is.

Yes. Start interviewing today.

> and I'm very offensive when it comes to handling projects

Offensive as in aggressive? or offensive as in rude? the latter will only hinder you. You can have a no-nonsense attitude without being annoying.

> no "thank you" for working in weekends for example

stop working weekends if you aren't getting paid for it

your boss refuses to give you feedback on why you didn't get a pay raise?

email their manager and ask them why you didn't get a pay raise because your manager isn't answering questions.

Also, important: did you clearly indicate you wanted/expected one beforehand?

It sounds like emotional support from your boss is important to you. It also sounds like your current manager isn't someone who can provide that (refusing to talk validates this). I personally think that your work place should feel psychologically safe and should enable you to thrive (very important for your long-term career success). You are probably feeling let down by this event and your wanting to quit is a fair reaction. You probably should. But I'd recommend making a plan, getting a job somewhere you'll find that emotional support, and then quitting. Also, because the market is kind of weird right now. All the best!

Sounds to me like your abrasive attitude and deficiency in soft skills may have strained your relationships with your boss and coworkers. Improving your interpersonal skills will be very beneficial to you in the long term, even if it does not salvage your current situation.

If I were you, I would just start searching for a new job and make a conscious effort to be easier to work with in your next job. No one likes having to work with jerks, no matter how technically skilled or brilliant they may be. I'm not saying you are a jerk but it sounds like others may see you that way.

So many red flags in here.

First, the CEO is an idiot for publicly saying that. This is most likely alienating 20% of the company.

Second, pushing back on stupid ideas is good, but being aggressive and offensive is not. Knowing how to rally people is a critical skill to master. You can be the best technical dev in the world, if you behave like a dick and nobody wants to work with you you won't get far.

Stop working during weekends. All you're doing is normalizing what should be very exceptional.

Finally, the fact that you can't talk to your boss about it is really messed up. It is a clear signal that you need to GTFO.

Regarding your last couple points, are you being asked to work on the weekends or are you just doing it? Is the stuff you're doing over the weekends needed for Monday, or is it gold plating stuff that wouldn't otherwise be completed? Said another way, is it affecting timelines positively or is stuff shipping the same day regardless?

Saying either one of "I'm very offensive when it comes to handling projects" or "I often have problem[s] with my team" by themselves would be enough for you not to get any sort of raise IMO (or worse).

Working weekends? Yeah you should find another job. Often have problems with my team. Yeah you should find another job. No pay raise... Is this a rhetorical question? Without those other red flags, no pay raise is a very good indication you should be looking for another position. There are plenty of options out there. No reason to be stuck in an unhappy job especially one that won't give you a raise (any raise, even over less than inflation)

Don't quit right away, but start interviewing and get an offer. You'll be in a better position to negotiate. And you can still quit then.

"I'm not afraid to criticize some stupid ideas", "I'm very offensive", "I work hard", "I often have some silly conflicts", "I often have problem with my team".

Yes, you should quit and you should stay as far away from anything that requires social skills whatsoever. And also, what is wrong with you other people here?

Unless you were recently hired, you should look out for another job and quit. The argument that you are already compensated as per market standards only holds true if you were hired less than an year ago. Also, the company should have given you raise even if it was smaller value in percentage terms. Not giving any raise is a clear indication.

Take a month of vacation then see how they feel afterwards. Either way you're looking for an exit strategy.

No pay rise is pretty common in most companies in most years. You should think about what you really want. Do you want higher comp? Or do you want to work less? or a change to a different role? Promotion? Time off? Dont ask us what is best for you.

If they don't respect your opinions anymore , look for another position and take that position. I agree do not just quit.

As a hiring manager, I interpret this as... you are probably making more than those other people. Possibly at top-of-band for your role, so there's no way to give you more unless you are promoted.

Use the current job as a safety net and look for a better.. net. I'm probably repeating but if you are anything like me, you need this repeated a lot. Good luck.

New offer with current + >15% salary -> bye bye.

If you are seriously thinking about quitting you should at least go all out asking for what you think you deserve before quitting.

I think it’s not a good time to quit, unless you have enough savings. Ask for a raise

Wait to quit. Wait for do your daily jobs unless the boss explain its choice.

wondering, any culture clash aspect? (did you move to other country for job)

this is tough in US and Canada in my experience. manager has to tread lightly too, or else manager gets fired for sounding xenophobic

>My boss refuses to talk with me about it.

Leave. Find another job, and then quit.

How often did the others get a raise in the last for years?

Job hop every year :)