anyway i gather the answer to my question is that no, there are no other examples of managed sql dbs that bill the way you do. my complaint is this is inherently not transparent because it violates user expectations. users try comparing to io based provders and fail to understand the pricing math comparison (on io pricing 1 read = many rows) or caching implications (on io pricing, cached rows dont count as io)
as for denigrating rds, look to your ceos past hn comments. i would link to it, but last time i did that i got flagged, despite it being a recent thread that i was directly participating in