> you have people who want to go into a 2019 office [...] some of them think it's the responsibility of their coworkers
100% believe these people do exist, but I've not met one. I'd love to go into a 2019 office, but I've accepted the impracticality of that expectation and so has anyone similarly-minded that I've encountered.
Well, you see some people on this very thread. But I agree. Most reasonable people recognize that a 2019 office dynamic may be dead forever at many places. I expect that most accept that reality if they otherwise like the company. (I know a fair number of people in that category.) Or they seek out companies that are much more committed to people coming into an office.