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0 pointssweezyjeezy3y ago0 comments

"Women spend as much time, if not more" - I think the ratio of men:women is about 2:1 on most apps, but I would imagine it takes men more than 2x the time to wade through profiles and send a message, than to read that message and move on (even if the message is low-effort). So I'm not sure I can believe that women spend as much time, and certainly the effort spent on the app per date will be much higher for men, not least because of the gender ratio.

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kibwen3y ago

The ratio is more like 4:1. And women receive such an overwhelming amount of low-quality messages that there's no point in crafting a high-effort message, as it will just be buried by spam in their inboxes.

sweezyjeezyOP3y ago

Nah I don't think that's true, at least for me - I tried low effort, I tried high effort. High effort has definitely worked better.

thot_experiment3y ago

Don't worry. I, an engineer, have the solution. We simply make a dating app with at least regex support for message filtering, you get to shoot yr shot and get immediate feedback in the form of being auto-blocked if you didn't make it past the filter.

Just thinking about it makes me want to start dating again, it'd be like ad-block but for crypto bros.

290830113977783y ago

> Don't worry. I, an engineer, have the solution

I'm ready for the sarcasm

> auto-blocked if you didn't make it past the filter

This, if it could be made people-friendly, would be perfect. Block based on non-real and mis-spelled words to stay a step ahead of anyone trying to evade the filter with "dik", as well as filtering based on phrase, and down to the word. Then just auto-prioritize a list of words on a per-person basis, and let the rest be left as-is.

It may not scale perfectly, but it'll be fun until Match group apes your product, makes it pay-to-play, and puts you out of business.

wbgne3y ago

> I think the ratio of men:women is about 2:1 on most apps

Ratio is actually 3:1 and I agree with your viewpoint partly. People just keep swiping while talking to each other, so I don't see why x would be taking more time than y, however, women do indeed also need to spend that time finding their matches and QA them (excuse the engineering term), so I don't believe there are any parties winning here.

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