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0 pointscommandlinefan3y ago0 comments

> you can only bring one girl to a dinner date per night

I don't think he was suggesting that those successful men are dating 8 women concurrently - rather, that the other seven women themselves would rather be single than date anybody in the "bottom" 90%. I've been married for a long time now, but this matched my observations from back when I was dating, and from everything I've heard, things have gotten much, much worse for men since I left the market.

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LorenPechtel3y ago

It doesn't even take them preferring to be single.

The basic problem is the dating apps have made the pool so large that they can keep trying to get the top 10% and the well never runs dry. Thus they don't settle for what they can actually get.

Thus you get a lot of men with no dates and a lot of women who get dates with men they aren't good enough to actually hook. In reality both sides lose.

MockObject3y ago

The problem is thinking that all women share the same 90%! Sure, there are celebrities that many women would enjoy a date with, but there's tremendous variance in women's tastes, and most women's mates are fairly unattractive to many other women, for all sorts of reasons.

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