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0 pointsthrowaway2903y ago0 comments

A human is social, how we see ourselves is not really separable from how others see us. Read about the psychological concept of labeling: we tend to become who others think we are.

It's not about becoming mad at people around you thinking you're gay, but if you can actually fully ignore community's attitude towards you and not let it subtly change your behavior or weigh on you I'd say it's not typical.

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zwkrt3y ago

Social pressures never turned anyone gay. Quite the opposite actually.

throwaway290OP3y ago

Of course it would not turn you gay. Or would it?

Let me rephrase this for you.

In long term we, being social, unconsciously tend to become what people expect of us (becoming typically less malleable as we age) or feel tension otherwise. In an unrelated news, we seek approval of others. Those are sadly different things. If people see you (straight) as gay, and they disapprove of gay, you got a problem on your hands.

Maybe you see how that could introduce undercurrents that hamper your enjoyment at the bar.

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