Ask HN: How do you find your community – developers, creatives, –. friends?

As I get older, I miss having a small group of people to share things with -- this cool website I found (tildeverse.org), or this neat article I read, or 'Has anyone upgraded to Ventura without issue?' or 'could someone try my silly code and tell me how it is'?

Where are your go-to places for finding tight-knit communities, or just friend circles in the virtual world?

I'm currently on several Discords with established communities that are intimidating to participate in, although I am starting to, I'm making friends on SLOWLY.app, and other friendship apps, but where do you go when you want to form closer relationships with other tech-savvy people? (Probably I should join a couple of tildes..)

Thanks!