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0 pointsno-dr-onboard3y ago0 comments

IMO Incels tend to be people who would (if they could), at the first chance, jump at the opportunity to become sexually active. Additionally, incels tend to not value monogamy nor are strictly heterosexual. The inherent value of the individual they're pursuing is also different. This group tends to have a very low view of women (and men too, to some degree) as individuals with meaning, purpose, thoughts and emotions. There is a notable lack of care for personhood.

TC would be different in that the premise is opposite, that they're pursuing heterosexual monogamy and are voluntarily foregoing a life of sexual promiscuity in light of that pursuit. This group highly values the person they're pursuing and places a high degree of respect on the opposite gender.

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Izkata3y ago

> IMO Incels tend to be people who would, at the first chance, jump at the opportunity to become sexually active.

It's literally in the name: involuntary celibate

Clubber3y ago

>It's literally in the name: involuntary celibate

I've always taken issue with that term. Any guy who bathes, doesn't say mean things, tries to make himself more attractive, doesn't consider a woman unattractive because she isn't an 8+, and learns to strike up a conversation with the opposite sex will find someone sooner or later.

I don't know much about them, but people presented as incels generally seem unwilling to put much effort into any of that. If I had sat at home all day, played video games and really let myself go, does that make it involuntary or just lazy?

Izkata3y ago

> but people presented as incels

Originally it was a label they chose for themselves because they couldn't figure out why they kept getting rejected. It was only later outsiders caught on, then turned it into an insult. Beyond that I also don't know very much.

lmm3y ago

> Any guy who bathes, doesn't say mean things, tries to make himself more attractive, doesn't consider a woman unattractive because she isn't an 8+, and learns to strike up a conversation with the opposite sex will find someone sooner or later.

And if he doesn't, clearly it must be because he isn't trying hard enough amirite?

There are plenty of guys out there who listen to what they're being told (which is hard, because there's a lot of contradictions), try as hard as they can, and yet can't find anyone.

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Izkata3y ago

> IMO Incels tend to be people who would, at the first chance, jump at the opportunity to become sexually active.

It's literally in the name: involuntary celibate

Clubber3y ago

>It's literally in the name: involuntary celibate

Izkata3y ago

> but people presented as incels

lmm3y ago

And if he doesn't, clearly it must be because he isn't trying hard enough amirite?

There are plenty of guys out there who listen to what they're being told (which is hard, because there's a lot of contradictions), try as hard as they can, and yet can't find anyone.

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