Find where you spiral and focus on changing some of your attitudes to remove the cycles of spiraling.
An example of spiraling is:
1. “I should be achieving <unreasonable expectations>”
2. Shame about not being productive enough to achieve those expectations.
3. Numbing your emotions by getting distracted on web forums.
4. GOTO 2
To break this, don’t imagine you’ll go cold turkey. You’re human and will stumble. Instead, have ways to break the cycle and stop it from starting.
1. Have more humility. Don’t compare yourself to others especially characters on a stage like Jeff Bezos.
2. Give yourself power over your negative emotions by putting a label on them.
3. Use your body to process feelings. Specifically when you notice yourself feeling shame, do some pushups while imagining children playing on you like a jungle gym.
4. Do something you’ll feel grateful for having accomplished.
