This is why the Fediverse cannot work. More precisely, it can work, but only in the same way as the thing it tries to replace.
It's always the same story: The largest communities impose their rules on everyone else, under threat of exclusion from those communities. This creates power structures that are almost indistinguishable from the ones found on commercial networks. In one case, it's business interests that drive culture, in the other, it's the egos and personal ideologies of the most powerful community members.
I honestly don't know which one is worse.