If I run a db workload in K8s, it’s a tiny fraction of the operational overhead, and not a massively noticeable performance loss.
I would absolutely love a way to deploy and manage db’s as easily as K8s with fewer of the quite significant issues that have mentioned, so if you know of something that is better behaved around singular workloads, but keeps the simple deploys, the resiliency, the ease of networking and config deployments, the ease of monitoring, etc, I am all ears.