I get the just of the post, but after reading the content therein, this is a super defeatist take.
Who cares if you're not a skinny girly girl or a tall dude with blonde hair and blue eyes? Not everyone's into that.
There are so many things a person can do to improve their appearance before succumbing to typical gym and diet tropes (though those aren't bad things either!)
The author is 23 (though she was 20 when she wrote this). When I was 20, I looked like a _steaming pile_ compared to what I am now at 35. Dressed terribly, awkward in social situations, and surprisingly clingy. Ironically, I was skinnier then.
To close this post with something that makes this appear like HN-worthy content if you squint hard enough, I often feel the same about my career as a black/Latino person in tech.
While I would consider myself and my career trajectory to date successful, I often wondered things like "would I be in management by now if I were white?" or "I thought I did well on this take-home; would I have gotten a call back if I weren't black?"
Ridiculous thoughts, but I think them!
It might also seem to me a little churlish, to complain toooo much ...
no draws a circle around you with chalk and says I have given enought
- boundaries
