No, what you are railing against is that your actions have consequences. But it is your choice wether you are willing to bear them and act or not and do not act. That's a basic anarchist tenet reaching back to the Cynics of ancient Greece.

The things you say in public could be heard by someone and those someones have the gall to form an opinion of you you don't like -- some may even confront you about it.

Disagreement, unemployability, hostility, these are among the prices we pay for saying things in public places such as the internet. You can decide to pay the price and maybe turn it into a fruitful discussion (granted, unlikely on the internet) or you can shut up and seethe with anger for "being silenced".

You made a conscious decision to introduce gender identity into the discussion when nobody else was talking about it. It's not walking on eggshells for getting pulled up on you bringing up your beliefs when nobody asked.

> especially when I made it quite clear I have no issues with that.

No, you didn't. You pretty much said "just saying" as though that absolves you of what you actually said [0].

[0] https://www.npr.org/2010/12/18/132160770/its-rude-its-crude-...