A key difference is that the impact of these enormous models is obscured away. I don't feel the impact of having to run GPT-3.5-turbo at scale because it's just an API call away, and it's even more reliable now.
The main critiques outside of data privacy I've read are related to energy consumption, but even then, it's...not compelling? I read an article[0] that estimated the training of ChatGPT (3.5) to emit as much C02 as more than 3 round-trip flights between SF and NYC. That's not good! But also, really highlights that if we're to reduce emissions, there's clearly bigger targets than the largest ML models in the world.
[0]: https://themarkup.org/news/2023/07/06/ai-is-hurting-the-clim...