Well then we need to ask why is their infotainment systems so complex? and does it need to be?

I want my infotainment systems go connect to Android Auto. That is is.

Make it do that, and only that.

This drive to make EV's as complex as possible is one of the reason i am not planning on buying one

EV's are suppose to be SIMPLER than ICE. Make me a Simple Car with simple controls, and just replace the ICE with a battery and Electric Motor, give me an app for my Phone that can do the Charging Trip Calculators and interface with other systems.

I do not want a compplex SaaS app on wheels

That’s a huge plus for me. CarPlay or nothing. BMW is becoming closer to a Tesla like screen. GM is supposed to drop CarPlay in favor of whatever they are doing on their EVs.

I don’t want my ICE/EV to become a SaaS app where I’m paying $500 a year to use my own car.

BMW in particular is an interesting case, a (late) friend of mine drove just about every model the day after it came out (BMW fan) and they spent more time in the shop for software issues than they did driving. To the point that he'd get attached to some of the loaners, it really was that bad.

Updating software is orthogonal to the complexity of the software application being updated, unless you have horribly designed your architecture. I know, because I've made that mistake.