Coming up on the 6th anniversary of his death; my wife and I are separated and going through a divorce. I’d like to say it is all my fault because I am still emotionally unavailable but it takes two.
As for advice I think as we all relationships, communication is key. I dropped the ball here because honestly the first year I only got out of bed to go to the liquor store.
Year two, I drained my retirement to live while staying 24/7 obliterated and not dealing with what can only be called a complete loss of one’s identity and self.
I don’t think it is healthy for us to stay together because she took the loss much easier than I at least from all outward appearance.
Years 3-5 was a very introspective and healing time where I went through periods of depression and hopelessness.
I’m now in the rediscovering who I am phase because I kind of lost that along the way.
So in conclusion, a combination of LSD and therapy(CBT) allowed me to start moving forward with life and slowly getting out of a never ending cycle of grief.
That probably doesn’t answer your question but I think every one who has to go through this kind of event is going to handle it differently.
