You're talking about a subjective preference as thought it's an objective absolute.
Personally I prefer how it is. If I want it in a separate tab then I'll middle click or ctrl/cmd+click. As far as I know there's no keyboard shortcut which forces a `target=_blank` links to open in the _same tab_ when I want that behaviour.
The one I can't stand is when sites override default behaviours so you can't do either