> It's mostly that they put in some amount of effort.
I don't understand why so many people think that those who struggle to date must be not putting effort. Do you really think that in real life effort equals success?
Nearly everyone in this sphere of life is victim to such a fallacy. I know many men who put in high effort and are not rewarded. Meanwhile I’ve seen men who actively sabotage and have women throwing themselves at them.
The world is not fair. It’s so obvious with wealth - why can’t it be obvious with dating?