I can't control how people respond to what I say. I can attempt to predict and account for what I think responses will be, but I can be wildly wrong.
The whole way through it has felt to me like a lazy shortcut around the fact that proving intent is extremely hard. Ignoring intent completely is much easier, and that's exactly what a person is doing when they judge someone based on how others respond as a replacement for understanding what that person originally meant.
