I think you're missing much of the context and are misrepresenting what happened.
As far as I'm aware, there was no crying he didn't want to work with people, but there was a frustration that he was not open to having a Markdown "standard". To the point where he actively opposed efforts to standardize it, at least under the name Markdown[1].
This is legally and technically fine, as he owns a trademark for Markdown, but when you combine the inconsistent application of that trademark (GitHub Flavored Markdown is seemingly fine, but Common Markdown was not), along with him calling it "Jeff Atwood's crusade" and mocking the effort[2], it's not a great look and resulted in quite a few frustrated people.
As an open source project, you're right that he doesn't owe anything to anyone, but that doesn't mean people have to be entirely happy about how the situation was handled either.
[1]: https://blog.codinghorror.com/standard-markdown-is-now-commo...
[2]: https://soundcloud.com/thetalkshow/ep-88-cat-pictures-side-1, around 1:15