Yeah, if I'm reading documentation to decide if there's a value proposition worth exploring, I've already made a mistake. You've got a make the value proposition, and then I'll read about the "why" to understand if that value proposition can be realized. Why would I read a tutorial or a HOWTO for something with no known value?
The reference is relevant to me too, though modern information retrieval tools make it much less so, as I can often get the reference information I want in context. The main reason the reference is helpful is that explanations often aren't as precise as you need them to be about the specifications for the tool.
In retrospect, I do get some value out of tutorials & HOWTOs, mostly as a check on my understanding. They're just not where I want to start.
I think a good way of framing it is that a lot of documentation these days starts with "getting started", and I've observed that more often than not, that actually makes everything more difficult. If I understand the tool first, I avoid going down a lot of blind alleys and misinterpretations. I have observed that people often use a tutorial or a HOWTO as a way to get something done quickly without ever reaching that understanding, but the reality is the understanding is reason you wanted a human using the tool in the first place.