i went to therapy for 2 years with this perspective that the therapist would fix me like the mechanic fixes my car. I spent 2 hours a week with a psychiatrist & therapist bitching about my life thinking eventually I would get "better".
but then i realized that wasn't getting any better. it's not their responsibility to "fix" me. the only person that could help me was me.
the first thing we reach for is an external solution to solve or escape our current problems and everything is so commoditized that there is something that we can fixate our attention on.
i think that reflecting this fixation inward has made all the difference for me personally.
Therapy is such a broad spectrum from psychoanalysis to behavior therapy. It is very unlikely that you just click with the first therapist that you visit, it can take years to find someone.
Two years without any tangible progress sound extremely unethical from the therapist. Yes, therapy takes time but it still something you do for a fixed time period with hopefully clear goals where you track your progress.
And yes, the actual work is done by the patient. Just like a personal trainer can not just work out for you.
> The modern cure to all problems. Going to the gym if you feel unfit. Incredible insight.
