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0 pointsbsder1y ago0 comments

> I should have accepted much earlier that it was over and just prepared for that inevitability rather than clawing and scratching for options right until the end. I just didn't know how to do it.

And yet with the other choice you might have regretted "not having done everything you could have". That is the curse of those with the ability to actually do something. In many ways, those who do not understand and simply place their faith in doctors are less burdened.

You did what you thought best at the time; that is all you could have done. Nothing you did or did not do was a mistake.

There are no "right" answers when facing mortality. My sympathies for what you went through, and I hope you are doing better.

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nick__m1y ago

》 In many ways, those who do not understand and simply place their faith in doctors are less burdened.

This is so true.

I wish I could write a better response but my wife has her periodic pet-scan in 1hr. Those scan always leave me paralyzed with fear of recurrence of the metastatic breast cancer she has. it's probably off topic so sorry internet strangers but writing it brings a little relief.

All my sympathy to those who lost someone!

CobaltFire1y ago

My son’s regular survivorship checkups completely destroy me with anxiety.

I sympathize deeply.

jcims1y ago

Thank you, I appreciate it. The 'doing everything I can' aspect is real. I was only in it for two years and it truly gave me a new perspective for folks that are dealing with similar circumstances over a much longer timespan.

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