this is a deeply insightful comment, thank you.
i worked at a FAANG for six years and this matches my experience. there's a variety of responses:
- to burn out. sometimes the flameout is spectacular, other times it's a quiet, lonely exit.
- to "go with the flow." soft-quit, accept that the dysfunction is there and narrow your own expectations within it
- (rarely) to productively challenge it, and -- through picking battles and careful resource management -- push through and make something truly good for yourself or your reports.
this is situational. all three are often present in one career at different times.