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0 pointsprojectazorian11mo ago0 comments

I've gotten in the habit of straight out calling out these people, including throwing them out of my house when they start down this road.

They tend to have some form of serious mental illness and/or a major substance problem they're not interested in addressing, which leads to emotional dysregulation. So not exactly great people to have around anyway.

Have I lost friends over it? Yes. But that's fine, having no friends is better than having fake friends who undermine you.

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johnisgood11mo ago

I would not punish them for having a mental illness, I am understanding of it as I have, too, but it is completely fine if you, yourself, do not want to handle or deal with it.

I tend to call people out, too. I keep the ones that take it gracefully.

Quality > quantity. :)

projectazorianOP11mo ago

Yeah, I try to give people some grace but if their behavior is repeatedly disruptive over a period of months to years, eventually something has to give. Everyone needs to have some boundaries.

quinnirill11mo ago

It’s not necessarily punishment, e.g. leaving an abusive partner is in most cases about self-preservation, and if intended as a punishment, very ineffective at that. That said, I think a lot of people who end up at the receiving end of it do tend to try to spin it as a punishment due to self-centered thinking and in order to frame themselves as the victim.

johnisgood11mo ago

I think "punish" was the wrong word of choice here. I agree with what you said though.

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0 pointsprojectazorian11mo ago0 comments

I've gotten in the habit of straight out calling out these people, including throwing them out of my house when they start down this road.

Have I lost friends over it? Yes. But that's fine, having no friends is better than having fake friends who undermine you.

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johnisgood11mo ago

I would not punish them for having a mental illness, I am understanding of it as I have, too, but it is completely fine if you, yourself, do not want to handle or deal with it.

I tend to call people out, too. I keep the ones that take it gracefully.

Quality > quantity. :)

projectazorianOP11mo ago

Yeah, I try to give people some grace but if their behavior is repeatedly disruptive over a period of months to years, eventually something has to give. Everyone needs to have some boundaries.

quinnirill11mo ago

johnisgood11mo ago

I think "punish" was the wrong word of choice here. I agree with what you said though.

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